Friday, July 27, 2012
Somehow I got behind a day...Day 3!
Describe your relationship with your parents....
Well, This one is a tough one. I could give the easy answer... I love both my parents so much. But things aren't ever that easy are they? I was a Daddy's girl... He was the sun, moon and stars to me. I am so proud that he was my father, and happy that I had him as long as I did.... but it wasn't long enough. He died of Pancreatic Cancer 9 years ago. I was almost 34 years old. By the time his life ended, He had watched me at my graduation, Met the love of my life, Walked me down the aisle, danced with me at my wedding.... He was a wonderful son, brother, husband, father, Grandfather. He was my mother's rock.... He was everyone's rock.
My Mom and I were like best friends, inseparable....even though I always felt like I was never good enough for her, and even my sweet George wasn't ever good enough. She makes me a people pleaser....trying constantly to be the perfect daughter and sometimes succeeding although usually failing miserably. When my Dad died, I lost my buffer and for a long time... my relationship with my mother was touch and go. She lived with us for 5 years and made my life a living hell. She took over my house like it was her own and I hid in my room, and kept gaining weight. I was depressed and felt hopeless because I thought she would never be able to afford to go out on her own again.
Well, at the end of 2010... My husband George gave me the best christmas gift ever.... He told me that my wish was coming true and we can move back home. I didn't know how to break that to my Mom but I was so excited, I had been begging him for 2 years... I was homesick. I missed my family, and it kept growing even though I wasn't here to see it.... So I told my Mom gently, after looking up some information about low income housing for seniors on the internet... And she found an adorable place in Trenton, New Jersey and she is living with the man she went to both proms with in high school... Her first love, that she sorta dumped for my Dad but they are happy and she has the companionship she needed, and I have the Space, I needed. Our Relationship is better, I would even call it a friendship again. We double date.... and all.