Tuesday, September 18, 2012
The Game of Life....
I am a Loser Gainer in the Game of Life... I gain all kinds of weight. And I can't lose it permanently. This is true on my weight loss journey, most of the time... but it is also true with my friends. I find that there are very few people whom I consider Close to me, friend-wise. And I have a few friends who are mostly needy and suck the life out of me... It would be nice if They sucked the fat out of me... You know Two Birds One Stone, and all. Well, every time I think of writing about one of them I think... What if they find this and read it?(Probably i should start writing a journal that isn't on the World Wide Web and all). I think one or two may follow me from when I first started this blog. So I guess that means I value their friendship... since I don't wanna lose it, but one of them is being even more needy than usual and I am there for them as much as possible but 3 and 4 in the morning are for emergency calls, not "I had an idea" calls. How can I put boundaries on my friends? Unconditional love is hard....
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You need to put you first! You are loyal to a fault, I've seen it before. When someone becomes toxic for you, as painful as it is, you need to let go. You can, and will win this battle! There are a lot of ups and downs in our journey, but ultimately the ups will win!
ReplyDeleteUnconditional love IS hard... but friends should know better than to call that early (late?).
ReplyDeleteI think a good rule of thumb is: if you can call them if you were in the same position, then let them call you. If the friendship is one-sided and you couldn't reach them at 3:00 am for an "emergency idea"... time to set some ground rules!
If they are friends..they should understand when you tell them you need your sleep!
ReplyDeleteYou are a great friend to take calls in the middle of the night. No wonder you feel like they are sucking the life out of you. There would have to be a dire emergency to wake me up at that hour.
ReplyDeleteI've been going through something similar lately with family and friends, sometimes you just have to let them go. Put yourself first - love YOURSELF unconditionally and the rest will follow.
I've had to cut out pretty much everyone close to me lately. Mother, Father, Sister, Brothers & a friend. It's sad, but I couldn't take any more. Maybe one day when I'm stronger, things will be different. But I was sucked DRY! (Unfortunaley they didn't take any fat with them either! Dang-it!)
I am in the same boat, but at least my friends don't call me at all hours. Wow, I hope you told her that is not OK!
ReplyDeleteWow, I would say they are over-stepping some boundaries there...but on the other hand I know how difficult it can be to have "friends" that suck the life out of you. Maybe try to hold closer the ones that don't do that and distance yourself from the life suckers....IDK...
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