tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post7896248064170888647..comments2023-09-12T03:19:56.340-07:00Comments on You just met a girl named Maria...: I am FAILING my Band these days!DiZneDiVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17438098766424979772noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-25033665263820629292011-02-21T19:21:13.916-08:002011-02-21T19:21:13.916-08:00You said that you got the band, instead of bypass,...You said that you got the band, instead of bypass, to learn new habits...hell, just the realization that you aren't doing what you should be doing is a game changer that probably didn't exist in your life before! If you can figure out the magical tool to get the brain under control while we struggle to lose each and every pound, let me know!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-83530063812031327292011-02-21T06:54:01.013-08:002011-02-21T06:54:01.013-08:00You have done so well so far, and like everyone el...You have done so well so far, and like everyone else said -- thanks for putting this out there!<br /><br />I think most of us can totally relate to what you're feeling, and those who haven't hit this spot post-banding probably will eventually. As much as we ride the success wave, there are times when it backslides the other way -- but the difference is that this time we have the band to help us get back on top without losing ground the way we did in the past. Hang in there, enjoy your cruise, and schedule a fill (if you need it) for right when you get back to help get you into the headspace before you can make excuses. You know you can do it -- because you have been doing it, and HOW!!! :DJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10500821442558763539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-57720474443129732862011-02-20T19:59:52.359-08:002011-02-20T19:59:52.359-08:00Hey again! I forgot how much you've lost actua...Hey again! I forgot how much you've lost actually, holy sh*t! But yes, definitely please don't get discouraged, you are kicking my ass (in a good way! :-) We need to get back to that healthy way of eating. Heck, I wish I could do that now but my unfill has been pushed to March 5 and solids so aren't my friend now! But, you don't have the same excuse....RIGHT?! So let's get to what we need to be doing! Cause heck you've been so successful, there is no reason that can't continue!Blossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12384503085670445419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-48202062363259020102011-02-20T19:05:00.330-08:002011-02-20T19:05:00.330-08:00Hon, don't beat yourself up. I am coming up on...Hon, don't beat yourself up. I am coming up on my 6 month bandiversary and am only about 30 lbs down. Sometimes, this is the way it goes. This is not the easy solution. It doesn't help with the issues in your head. All I can say is be happy you are 40 lbs less than last year, and next year you will be another 40 lbs less at least, and hell, the diva keeps coming out! We will do this, even if it takes longer than some!Blossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12384503085670445419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-27357074054578440532011-02-20T15:08:33.137-08:002011-02-20T15:08:33.137-08:00To be honest, I thought this journey would be easy...To be honest, I thought this journey would be easy too. However, I find it to be the hardest. Chocolate is my enemy, yet also my confidant. Thanks for sharing. I DO know how you feel... :(Amanda M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07061660843911190928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-42437435765110897172011-02-20T14:49:31.371-08:002011-02-20T14:49:31.371-08:00Stay strong, Maria! I know plateaus suck, but I h...Stay strong, Maria! I know plateaus suck, but I have faith that you will break through. Sometimes we just need to get tough with ourselves. You can do this!!! (And the Philly foods are soooo hard to resist!)Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14508271987032801740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-68113368143584562992011-02-20T14:27:27.926-08:002011-02-20T14:27:27.926-08:00Being honest with yourself is a huge first step. Y...Being honest with yourself is a huge first step. You know what the problem is, and now you can do something about it. Have a great time on the cruise and just make sure you drink plenty of water, be active every day, and make good choices. You'll be back on track in no time.Stephanie M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17389046478307990176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-43449133473952080512011-02-20T14:04:24.403-08:002011-02-20T14:04:24.403-08:00Hey M, I wanted to say that I misread your post an...Hey M, I wanted to say that I misread your post and thought it said you DID want tough love-- so you can delete my post if you want in good conscience and ignore me.<br /><br />You are not alone.Lylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09330598009302675050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-30748812694915155192011-02-20T14:02:54.524-08:002011-02-20T14:02:54.524-08:00It isn't easy, you are so right. But good for...It isn't easy, you are so right. But good for you for being honest with yourself. You have to make the choices to do right things for yourself and it is obvious that you want to. You just have to decide to do it. Good luck. We are all hear to cheer you on!!Beth Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16063989714851082617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-23484545969343809142011-02-20T12:12:26.629-08:002011-02-20T12:12:26.629-08:00Thank you for sharing I know how hard this was for...Thank you for sharing I know how hard this was for you to write...you will make it through....tough love I can give you but I think you are giving it to yourself enough....for now :-)CChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01947137883748295392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-33520577824601444752011-02-20T11:02:36.905-08:002011-02-20T11:02:36.905-08:00Man, I know that was tough to put out there - good...Man, I know that was tough to put out there - good for you for doing it. Have a great time on your cruise and I'd do as you suggested and concentrate on what you CAN do while you're there - like walking the decks or as Jacquie suggested taking the stairs whenever possible.<br /><br />Have a great time and know we're all pulling for you!Readhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13065650807764320970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-8830156530954559692011-02-20T10:44:39.180-08:002011-02-20T10:44:39.180-08:00Well... I know you said you didn't want tough ...Well... I know you said you didn't want tough love.. yadda yadda... but see that is the thing about tough love, you get it anyway! <br /><br />You have done SO well. Do NOT do what I did. Do NOT start making excuses and checking out. It is a LONG HARD journey... and it gets mentally exhausting. <br /><br />Take that walk on the cruise. Every day. Enjoy yourself. don't stress about the food while on the cruise, but GET THAT WALK IN. <br /><br />Then when you get back. It is back to business. And try cutting the desserts out to 3x a week or less. I had to abstain from ice cream. I could not just have a little. Know your limitations.<br /><br />((GIANT HUGS)) Have an awesome vacation.adorkblhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12736190761715166989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-20057777440018890382011-02-20T09:50:11.550-08:002011-02-20T09:50:11.550-08:00I feel like I have been completely sabotaging myse...I feel like I have been completely sabotaging myself the last couple weeks as well. That ends today! Best of luck to you! (((hugs)))Justawallflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17735468144410586496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-54176210015209808332011-02-20T09:31:40.478-08:002011-02-20T09:31:40.478-08:00I think you're awesome. Reading this post made...I think you're awesome. Reading this post made me think about my own choices and want to do better. I wish you could inspire yourself the way you do me, but until you can just know that we love you out here in blogland. No matter what.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07382026535437792229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-86445018952231617802011-02-20T09:23:01.871-08:002011-02-20T09:23:01.871-08:00enjoy your cruise.
I think that just realizing wh...enjoy your cruise. <br />I think that just realizing where you are with your band & how to work it is a huge accomplishment.<br />I've been stalled out a few months, it blows!Jen from Oregonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17847241485437289347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-67345223175489331592011-02-20T08:53:29.175-08:002011-02-20T08:53:29.175-08:00What a great, honest and open post....the fact tha...What a great, honest and open post....the fact that you recognize everything and want to make it right is the first step...it is so not easy but with every choice you are one step closer...you can do it!!!MLMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13604780037114383753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-49567768967926417552011-02-20T07:38:41.980-08:002011-02-20T07:38:41.980-08:00{{{hugs}}} Maria. I know that took a lot to write...{{{hugs}}} Maria. I know that took a lot to write that all down. I also know that a cruise does not have to be an excuse to eat. Good for you to make a decision to walk the decks each day. You can also choose to use the stairs instead of the elevators...that is always a lifesaver for me when on a cruise. Do the best you can eating wise and make good choices. I agree that you need to indulge in a little dessert here and there but not at every meal.<br /><br />You have come so far Maria and I know you will make it to goal! We are always here for you honey! Have a great cruise!Jacquiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03612121609893900847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-58329897809857973512011-02-20T07:17:11.205-08:002011-02-20T07:17:11.205-08:00You asked for tough love, so here is my tough-ish ...You asked for tough love, so here is my tough-ish love.<br /><br />Don't "start tomorrow", start right this minute. Right now. Even small push-offs give you permission to keep pushing-off and then it's a year of your life gone without progress. <br /><br />Here's the deal-- we are banded people, 24/7, at work or home or even on vacation. You can have a great, fun, relaxing time on your cruise even if you don't turn it into a food orgy (well, a banded person's food orgy anyway). Make a plan for food choices now-- say, promise yourself you'll use a small plate or bowl when available and that you will choose protein first and follow it up with veggies (the non-starchy carby kind). Here's the thing-- you KNOW you will get full on this band-friendly food. You know it will satisfy your hunger. And as for satisfying your mind, you're on a cruise! Trade the obsession over food for something fun and exciting that can distract you. You don't need a full dessert every day, unless you cut your calories elsewhere to allow it (and then you'll be binging from hunger, not from self-denial). But you could certainly give yourself permission to do it a few times, or to take one bite of your husband's every day.<br /><br />I applaud you for being honest with yourself and us. We've all been there, that's for sure! I can intimately empathize with what you're saying. But I still hearing you giving yourself outs and I know for me, that just leads to bigger outs down the road.Lylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09330598009302675050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-72909553663757501852011-02-20T06:24:55.331-08:002011-02-20T06:24:55.331-08:00It's hard to say anything that will help...oth...It's hard to say anything that will help...other than hang in there! You know exactly what to do to chagne things, but now you just need to figure out how to do it. I feel your pain! You are so right, this is a marathon, not a sprint and you just need to pick yourself up and start again every day. It can be fatiguing, but just think back to those days 25 pounds, 50 pounds or 100 pounds ago--what's better about life now? Lots of stuff I am sure...just try to focus on that. Just know that we all have these thoughts and struggles...you can do it!!!CeeJayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08108144896669458008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-47499751719760958882011-02-20T04:29:41.650-08:002011-02-20T04:29:41.650-08:00you CAN do this! look how far you've come??? ...you CAN do this! look how far you've come??? just having the courage to be brutally honest is proof enough... use your time on this fabulous cruise to re-connect with your inner self. and i know you'll find your way!Maybe This Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10958355014726698878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-28682814072715862792011-02-19T23:37:22.823-08:002011-02-19T23:37:22.823-08:00I agree with Jen; your words show a strength &...I agree with Jen; your words show a strength & understanding that will lead to your continued success. The plan you have in place for the cruise is great! I would be right there with you on the desserts. I have faith in you. :)Ms. Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287115837422197004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1818996339381602318.post-84581427565208750162011-02-19T23:16:52.818-08:002011-02-19T23:16:52.818-08:00oy. it takes so much strength and understanding of...oy. it takes so much strength and understanding of the band to write what you have just shared. The band is NOT the EASY way out when it comes to weight loss. You still have to do your part. I have lost 0 pounds for about 7 months. I am so happy that I haven't gained, but I know, like you that I could be doing better. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts- exactly what i would say right now. I believe in you maria, I know you will do what you have set out for. I loves ya!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04801279089123312474noreply@blogger.com